Breaking the Cycle

So… Christmas happened. The presents were torn open, the plates stacked high, the conversations came faster than breath, and the festive momentum carried you both forward for days. And now, in this quieter space just after the sparkle settles, something feels unfinished between you - a distance you didn’t choose, tension you can’t fully explain, or a familiar disconnect looping back with uncomfortable precision. For a lot of couples, the real rupture isn’t Christmas Day, it’s

Working on trauma in counselling opens you up to feelings that once felt unsafe to access. As awareness grows, relationships can feel deeper, more honest, more genuine. But the festive period can arrive like a stress test for the nervous system: more people, more noise, more memories, more old relational roles waiting in the background.

A New Chapter in Southsea This month marks a new chapter for me and my counselling practice, I’ve now moved into my new space in Southsea, Portsmouth. It’s a calm, private setting where I’ll continue offering trauma and attachment counselling to clients who prefer to meet in person. While I continue to offer online sessions, this move has reminded me how powerful it can be to share physical space with another person, especially when working with trauma.   The Meaning of “Bein

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