Love Yourself Quiz: do you really love yourself enough to be in a Relationship?

Loving yourself isn’t about being perfect or confident all the time. Self-love often shows up quietly, in boundaries, emotional safety, and how you respond to yourself when things feel hard.

When you love yourself, you set the standards for how others treat you, teaching them care, respect, and boundaries. By honouring your own worth and refusing to diminish yourself for others' comfort, you signal that you deserve high-quality love and respect, inviting healthier, more balanced relationships.

Take my Love Yourself Quiz to find out how much self-love you have and how that will translate in a relationship.

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The Quiz

Read each statement and write down an answer: Often / Sometimes / Rarely.

1. I can say no without feeling overwhelming guilt afterwards.

2. I don’t feel responsible for fixing everyone else’s emotions.

3. I can ask for reassurance or support without feeling weak.

4. I notice when I’m over-giving just to keep the peace.

5. I feel safe expressing my needs, even if they’re not always agreed with.

6. I don’t lose my sense of self when I’m in a relationship.

7. I recognise when I’m seeking validation because I feel insecure.

8. I can step back from people, even family, if the relationship feels harmful.

9. I allow myself rest without feeling I have to earn it.

10. I can accept care or kindness without minimising it.

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What Your Answers Might Mean

Mostly “Often”

You’re likely building a solid internal sense of safety. This doesn’t mean relationships feel easy all the time, but you may be able to stay connected without abandoning yourself.

Mostly “Sometimes”

Many people sit here. You may understand your needs but still struggle to hold boundaries when emotions run high. This is often where growth begins.

Mostly “Rarely”

If these statements feel difficult, it doesn’t mean something is wrong with you. It may mean your nervous system learned to prioritise survival or harmony over self-connection, especially if love felt conditional growing up.

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Gentle Do’s and Don’ts

Do:

• Practise small, honest boundaries.

• Notice when your body feels tense or shut down in conversations.

• Speak to yourself with the same patience you offer others.

Don’t:

• Confuse self-love with never needing reassurance.

• Assume struggle means failure.

• Force yourself into “confidence” safety comes first.

Self-love isn’t a destination. It’s a relationship you slowly build with yourself over time.