Lucy came to counselling after the breakdown of a relationship. She said it was the first time she had felt seen, understood and prioritised by a partner. When the relationship ended, she cried constantly and felt unable to be present in her day-to-day life. Lucy began to speak about a long-standing belief: that if she were somehow “better”—more confident, more attractive, more outgoing—she would finally feel happy and chosen. It was clear that these beliefs hadn’t start