Relationship Compatibility Quiz: which Attachment Style are you?

Have you ever thought:

• “Why do I get so attached?”

• “Why do I panic when they go quiet?”

• “Why do I shut down when things get emotional?”

• “Why do I push people away then regret it?”

This quick relationship compatibility quiz will help you work out your attachment style (your usual way of reacting in relationships).

How to do The Quiz:

Pick the answer that sounds most like you: A, B, C, or D.

At the end, count up which letter you got the most.

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The Quiz

1) If someone takes ages to reply…

A) I assume they’re busy

B) I start worrying

C) I feel annoyed and pull back

D) I panic a bit, then act like I don’t care

2) When I like someone…

A) I enjoy it

B) I get attached fast

C) I feel like I need space

D) I want closeness, then feel overwhelmed

3) If I feel unsure where I stand…

A) I ask or wait and see

B) I try harder

C) I shut down

D) I chase, then pull away

4) In conflict, I usually…

A) Talk it through

B) Need it fixed straight away

C) Go quiet

D) Get upset, then regret it

5) My biggest fear in relationships is…

A) Wasting my time

B) Being left

C) Feeling trapped

D) Getting hurt

6) If someone wants to talk about feelings…

A) I’m okay with it

B) I feel anxious but want it sorted

C) I hate it and want to escape

D) I want it, but it also scares me

7) My biggest “bad habit” is…

A) Staying too long

B) Overthinking and needing reassurance

C) Avoiding serious chats

D) Pushing people away then missing them

8) If they say “we need to talk”…

A) Okay

B) Panic

C) Annoyed

D) I want to disappear

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Your Results

Mostly A = Secure

You feel steady in relationships and don’t panic easily.

Mostly B = Anxious

You care deeply, but relationships can make you worry a lot.

Mostly C = Avoidant

You like your space, and emotions can feel like pressure.

Mostly D = Fearful Avoidant

You want closeness, but you can also feel overwhelmed and pull away.

Who are you most compatible with?

Secure people are usually the best match for everyone. They tend to be clear, steady, and consistent.

The hardest match (for most people) is often: Anxious + Avoidant (one chases, one pulls away).

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The important bit

If you got Anxious, Avoidant, or Fearful Avoidant, it doesn’t mean you’re the problem.

It just means you’ve learned certain habits in relationships.

And the good news is: habits can change.